Birth Preparation for Birth Partners – how does it help?
When I first found out I was pregnant I downloaded all of the apps, ordered loads of books, scoured the internet for information because I wanted to know EVERYTHING about this lovely little thing growing inside me. My boyfriend on the other hand, not very enthusiastic about reading at the best of times, did not. He enjoyed me reading the little description on the apps I’d downloaded that told you week by week how your baby was developing and he asked from time to time what size the baby was compared to a size of fruit…. But that was it. I offered to buy him an ‘expectant dads survival guide’ or any other book so he could do a bit of reading but I think he just kind of thought I’d do it and that I had everything under control.
When I suggested we do Hypnobirthing he wasn’t sure – I think he rolled his eyes, did a little sigh and said “if that’s what you want to do…”
Hypnobirthing was the game changer for us – after the first session he was completely sold! I think he asked more questions than I did.
He was expecting it to be pretty whacky and fluffy but it was the complete opposite – he understood the process of labour, what happens physically to a woman in labour and most importantly his role in all of this.
He was told so many stories about how “it was bloody awful, I just stood there not really knowing what was going on” from mates who had supported their partners through labour. I think he was expecting me to be screaming at him “it’s all your fault” etc etc, you get the idea… doesn’t sound much fun at all!
By the end of our Hypnobirthing course we had both learnt all of the same things, we were both on exactly the same page in terms of what we wanted from our birth, we wrote the birth preferences together and I was SO over the moon that he was taking such an interest – it was actually really lovely to spend time planning together and practising the techniques we’d learnt. We were both aware of any curve balls that could be thrown our way, we felt completely confident and prepared and that together we could decide what was best for us and our baby.
We were both aware of any curve balls that could be thrown our way, we felt completely confident and prepared and that together we could decide what was best for us and our baby.
Now the moment of truth – how did he fair as a birth partner while I was actually in labour? He was INCREDIBLE. He exceeded all of my expectations – he protected my space, he was by my side every step of the way, we felt completely connected and were such a team.
The key thing that made all of the difference here is that we both knew exactly what was going on, my boyfriend remained completely calm which meant that I felt I was in completely safe hands at such a vulnerable time, he prompted me when I was tense to relax, he reminded me to eat and drink – he was just an all-round fricking incredible birth partner.
If you want to talk about my birth preparation courses as a way to prepare both you and your birth partner for your birth then please do get in touch – I would love to hear from you.