When you first find out that you’re pregnant it’s so bloody exciting, you’re going to have a baby! It then suddenly dawns on you that just before you get to meet this little bundle of joy, you’re going to have to give birth to it. If you’re anything like me, not having had experience in this area before, it kind of took the shine off of the whole thing and I was just a little bit (a lot) terrified!
I’d never seen anyone give birth before, my only reference was TV, films or stories that I’d heard… none of it was making me feel any less terrified if I’m completely honest! Now, I’d like to think I’m quite a positive, look on the bright side of life kind of girl but when it came to birth I could not shake those bloody anxious thoughts that kept creeping in… I mean, I didn’t know a thing about it… did I want to know how terrible it was going to be?
So this is what I thought was going to happen… my waters would burst everywhere in the supermarket or somewhere equally as humiliating, I’d have to be rushed to hospital in agony and have all of the drugs, be laying on a bed with my feet in stirrups, all dignity out of the window and really aggressive midwives ordering me around and shouting PUSH! I’d be swearing at my boyfriend and telling him it’s all his fault and then afterwards we’d take selfies with our lovely new baby and whatsapp them to all of our mates and try our best to forget the whole thing!
When I was 34 weeks pregnant I did a Hypnobirthing course with my boyfriend and by the end of it I was actually looking forward to giving birth, not giving birth in the way I thought it was going to happen above obvs, that sounds bloody awful, but giving birth my way. Before I did Hypnobirthing I hadn’t even realised I had options, I could choose, I could be in charge of how I wanted to give birth and not only did I know I had options, I bloody knew exactly what those options were! I felt so excited to plan my birth, I spent the rest of my pregnancy ready to give birth, believing I could definitely do it.
Well… I bloody did it! My birth wasn’t perfect, it didn’t go entirely to plan but I had a home birth with the most incredible midwives for support, my incredible boyfriend who exceeded all of my expectations as a birth partner and afterwards I felt so proud of myself.
I want to help you to feel the same – I can help you to feel confident about the birth of your baby, so you can enjoy your pregnancy without feeling negative about birth. I can help your birth partner to feel like they know exactly how to support you, so that they are a big part of your experience rather than a nervous, spare part. I will give you all of the information you need so that together, you and your birth partner can plan for the birth that you want while being aware of and pre-empting any curve balls that you’re thrown along the way. I can teach you how to remain calm and stay focused. You’ll understand why some people experience unbearable pain in labour while others don’t. (I’m not talking pain free birth here, although I completely believe there are people who have pain free births, it’s not a guaranteed for everyone).
There aren’t any guarantees but by preparing for your birth you are definitely stacking the odds in your favour.
If you want to spend the rest of your pregnancy feeling positive about your birth, have a birth that you can look back on with pride and accomplishment, regardless of what happens on the day then click here to book your birth preparation course with me.