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You can change your mind about birth…

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Birth is completely normal – it’s quite often long and slow to build (which isn’t very exciting and doesn’t make for great viewing on TV), you’re often not in constant pain as your contractions (surges/waves) aren’t constant, if you’ve done your homework, you’ll know that your body naturally produces a cocktail of hormones to keep labour progressing. Your body knows exactly what to do.

– You can change your mind about birth…

What first comes to your mind when you think about birth?

 

Is it that it’s a scary, medical emergency where your waters break in public and you’re humiliated, in excruciating pain and completely overwhelmed?

 

Have you ever seen anyone give birth?

 

I’m not talking about on TV (programmes like One Born Every Minute) or in movies – have you ever seen anyone give birth in real life?

 

If the answer is no, it’s likely that your impression of birth is that it’s a medical emergency, when that’s really not the case.

 

I’m not saying for a minute that there aren’t emergencies when it comes to birth and I’m not saying that medical intervention is the enemy – it saves lives and we are very lucky to have help in this way when we need it.

 

When we don’t need medical intervention though and we are calm, trust our bodies, feel in control and know what’s going on, birth is not a medical emergency. It’s not even an emergency.

 

Birth is completely normal – it’s quite often long and slow to build (which isn’t very exciting and doesn’t make for great viewing on TV), you’re often not in constant pain as your contractions (surges/waves) aren’t constant, if you’ve done your homework, you’ll know that your body naturally produces a cocktail of hormones to keep labour progressing. Your body knows exactly what to do.

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When we don’t need medical intervention though and we are calm, trust our bodies, feel in control and know what’s going on, birth is not a medical emergency. It’s not even an emergency.

How can you change your perception of birth?

 

Stop watching TV/Movie portrayals of birth – especially One Born Every Minute. It’s not a true reflection of birth, it’s a dramatized portrayal for entertainment. Yes, even OBEM! It might be a documentary but it’s not realistic and it is for entertainment.

 

Watch positive birth videos online, read positive birth stories, go to a positive birth movement group – watch and  hear real women’s accounts of their positive experiences.

 

Don’t listen to other people’s negative experiences – unless you were there you’ll never know the full story which isn’t going to help you prepare for labour at all.

 

Find out what happens during labour – understand the process and all of the different stages. I promise, if you do this you will be astounded at what your body is capable of. Birth is something to be completely in awe of, not something to be afraid of.

 

Think about the pain differently – as I said above, your contractions aren’t constant, you’re not in constant pain. If you have done your homework and aren’t scared of giving birth because you know what’s going on, you’ll actually be more comfortable because you won’t be producing adrenaline, (the hormone that we produce when we’re scared), you’ll be producing oxytocin (the hormone that facilitates labour) and other pain relieving hormones that your body naturally produces during labour. If you’re scared and you are tense, it’s likely you’re going to experience a lot more discomfort than if you’re calm and relaxed.

 

Learn how to relax and practice, practice, practice – one of the big differences between us and animals when it comes to birth is the analytical/critical thinking part of our brains. Birth is a very primal act – we don’t need this analytical/critical thinking part of our brain when it comes to actually giving birth so learning to relax and practicing throughout pregnancy means that when it comes to giving birth you can relax and let your primal brain take over.

 

Prepare your birth partner for birth – no matter how hard you work to prepare and change your perception of birth, if your birth partner isn’t on board and is running around in a panic, it can ruin all of your good work! By getting them involved, getting them to practice relaxing not only so they can remind and prompt you but also so they are relaxed themselves makes all the difference, even if things don’t go entirely to plan.

 

Birth is very intense, it’s powerful and challenging… overwhelming at times but it’s definitely nothing to be afraid of. You’ve 100% got this – believe in yourself and believe in your amazing body.

 

Leah x

 

If you would like to find out more about preparing for birth with me, then click here.

 

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