How to make time for yourself every day
I asked the mums in my Facebook group, CR Mums on Maternity leave, what they struggle with most as a Mum – I asked them the question because I’m writing a course at the moment and often ask for their input as it helps me to support the people who matter most, my amazing community. There’s also real value for other members of the group, in hearing other Mum’s struggles. This community share so openly and without judgement or pretence that you can’t help but feel less alone and more supported which is exactly what I’d hoped for when I started the group.
The majority of the women who responded to my post shared that their main struggle was that they don’t have enough hours in the day or aren’t able to dedicate any time to themselves – I put this together as a post for the group but I thought it was worth sharing on my blog in the hope that it’s helpful to you too.
We are all busy right? 24/7, it’s all booked up. Some of it with wasted time but nonetheless, there is no room for anything else, so my question to you is…
What can you let go of in order to make room for doing something for yourself?
Initially you might think – are you frikkin’ kidding me, there is literally no time. None. Zero.
I thought the same when this question was first posed to me, however when I actually thought about it, there were a few times throughout the course of the day that I could 100% book in some time for me.
Social media scrolling time seemed quite an obvious one as I do this a couple of times throughout the day but I went for an evening slot so I’d have a bit more time.
Rowe goes to bed at 7 pm, Steve and I normally have our dinner straight after Rowe goes to bed, then we’ll hit the couch and watch TV until we go to bed around 9:30 pm. There’s definitely an opportunity there for me to take some time without it eating into too much our time together.
I may mix it up – take 30 mins or an hour one evening and then use some time that I’d otherwise spend social media scrolling another day.
It’s not important when you find the time, it’s just important that you find the time if you need it.
If you feel like you literally have NO chunks of time whatsoever you could take mini breaks but also combine giving yourself a bit of head space while you’re doing a mundane task…
The other day I was quite honestly doing my own head in (I’ve not been very well for a couple of months so I had been worrying about an operation), I was loading the dishwasher and tidying the kitchen and I thought instead of worrying and overthinking I’m going to be really present while I do this.
I literally focused on everything I was taking out of the dishwasher, what it looked like, what it felt like in my hand, what it smelt like, what I could hear etc and every time a thought popped into my head I either wrote it down if it was something I needed to do/remember or acknowledged it and brought my focus back to the cups and glasses.
This sounds like a pretty bizarre act of self care and I’ll be honest, it didn’t leave me feeling totally zen or anything but it did give me ten minutes of peace from the noise in my head and it felt good to do something to help myself for those 10 minutes while I was getting shit done.
Obviously it’s much better if you can give yourself some time where you’re not ‘doing’ but if you can’t in that moment and you need a bit of head space, it’s a start!
What do you think? What can you release? Is there anything that you’re already doing that you can intentionally do a bit more mindfully?
Lots of love, Leah xx 😍
I am a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Hypnobirthing coach based in Coulsdon, Surrey. I support women like you, to have positive and empowered birth and journey through Motherhood. If you’d like to talk more about how I could help you, please click here and arrange a time for us to talk.