7 ways to make self-care accessible for someone like you…
There’s a load of hype these days around self-care and self-love, which I think is brilliant – we’re becoming more aware of a need for it and I love that we’re having more open conversations about mental health and emotional well being.
There’s also a part of me that has rejected it or not been able to fully embrace it for some time, because of my perception of it and I know I’m not alone.
Self-care or self-love to me seem like quite fluffy and airy fairy concepts and I wouldn’t consider myself a very fluffy or airy fairy person.
It took me a long time to get out of my own way and embrace it, in a way that worked for me. It’s been a game changer for me – not because I’m totally zenned out and on cloud 9 all the time but because when I do encounter a stressful situation I’m a lot more emotionally resilient. I can bounce back quicker. I have more patience with myself and with my family. I know when I drop the ball on it because I’ve got a short fuse, I eat crap and I feel fed up. When I do something for myself every day I feel lighter and calmer. I eat better and I’m definitely a lot more fun to be around too.
Here are 7 ways to make self-care more accessible for people like us…
…because let’s face it, if you’ve got this far we’re mates now!
1. Your why – think about what this investment in yourself means for you in every aspect of your life, how much of a difference will it make to you when you’re calmer, happier, more resilient, more patient and all of those other things. I think this is one of the most important parts – getting your own ‘buy in’. You’ll find if you are really clear about why you’re creating a plan to look after yourself, you’ll be much more consistent with it and less likely to think f*ck it I’ll just eat this big cake and binge a box set (do that after ;)).
2. Call it something else if you feel like self-love or self-care are a bit cringe – or don’t call it anything at all. Not everything needs a name or a label does it!? It’s yours after all.
3. Find your thing – there are SO many ways to give yourself a bit head space and an opportunity to unwind depending on how much time you have or what you want to get from it.
4. Book it in – plan in advance and book it into your diary or calendar. Set a reminder on your phone if that helps. If you feel like there physically aren’t enough hours in your day to do it, you might find this helpful. (click the word this)
5. Be patient – this is one of those things that isn’t a task to complete, this is an ongoing investment in yourself. Other people will probably notice a difference before you do, you’ll probably look back after a few weeks and notice a more startling difference.
6. Practice doesn’t make perfect – because let’s face it, no one is perfect and that’s not what this is about. If you decide that you’re going to try meditation first, to see if that’s your thing, and you sit down for ten minutes and get annoyed because your head is still full of noise, that’s normal! If you sign yourself up to a yoga class and the first time you do it you’re all over the place and the only thing you can focus on is not falling over or farting, that’s normal! It’s going to take some time, especially if you’ve never done anything like this before to get into it.
7. Your giving yourself a break, so give yourself a break – don’t beat yourself up if you go off plan or something isn’t working, in the same way that one slice of cake doesn’t mean your whole diet is ruined, having a day off or choosing to do something else with your time doesn’t mean you can’t just get back into the swing of things tomorrow.
Enjoy investing your time and energy into yourself for a change, you deserve it and please do let me know how you get on.
If you are struggling with finding ‘your thing’ and want some ideas and inspiration, want someone to help keep you accountable if you keep falling off the wagon or want help with anything else, you can use this link to arrange a time for us to speak. I’d love to help you make this work for you!