While my boyfriend and I weren’t actually ‘trying’ to get pregnant, in early 2014 we decided we wouldn’t try not to and see what happened. In June 2014 we discovered we were pregnant. We were pleased and terrified in equal measures! Unfortunately eight weeks in, we discovered it was a molar pregnancy. We were advised to wait at least a year before trying again so that’s what we did. You can find out about more molar pregnancy by clicking here.
When my boyfriend and I found out we were pregnant in July 2015, we were cautiously optimistic after what had happened the previous year. We had a number of early scans to make sure things were progressing as they should. I don’t really think that I ever completely believed that it was real until we’d had our 20 week scan!
Once it had all sunk in, I thought it might be wise to do some form of prep, based on the fact that both of us were clueless… We looked at NCT classes but as a Hypnotherapist I decided Hypnobirthing was the way to go for us and the course definitely didn’t disappoint. I was expecting Hypnobirthing to be mainly breathing and relaxation techniques but no, it was a complete antenatal course which explained the whole process of giving birth in so much detail and how to actually work with my body, by the end of the course I was actually looking forward to going into labour to use the techniques I’d learnt. My boyfriend also knew exactly what his role was and it was great that he had learnt everything I had learnt too which made him much more involved. After completing the course we felt that we could plan the birth we wanted, knowing all of the facts, making informed decisions about what was best for us and for our baby.
On 1st March 2016, my life was changed forever. I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy called Rowe, at home on my living room floor with Steve, my mum and two lovely midwifes from the CROCUS home birth team for support.
I didn’t have clue about birth or babies so I found motherhood very challenging in those first few weeks. I fell in love with Rowe straight away, however as the kind of person with zero patience, who likes specific instructions and solutions to problems and a good ten hours sleep a night, let’s just say it took me a while to adjust.
I don’t think anything could have prepared me for just how incredibly intense, amazing, overwhelming, incredible and emotional the labour and the fourth trimester really was. Women are AMAZING – I have never been more proud of myself and I have never been more in awe of my amazing mum and all of the amazing mums around me, doing a fan-frikkin-tastic job every single day!
Rowe has taught me so much – he has taught me about love beyond my wildest dreams, he has taught me patience, he has taught me that I should always make sure that those little fan bits are poking out of the leg holes of the nappies so that I don’t get covered in poo… again.
I have been so inspired by my own experience, the incredible midwives and Bev our superstar Hypnobirthing teacher that I have become quite obsessed with all things pregnancy and birth related… so obsessed that I’ve trained to be a Hypnobirthing teacher myself to make sure that all of you amazing mums and mums to be out there (and your birth partners), get to have the knowledge and the positive experience that I did! I am also a Breastfeeding peer supporter (it turns out it’s not always as easy as just putting your boob in your baby’s mouth, but that’s probably a story for another day) and co-facilitating the Croydon Positive Birth Movement group and the Caterham Positive Birth Movement group!
I am on a mission to empower women, to educate them on their birth choices (yes you do have choices, lots of them!) and do my bit to get rid of the negativity and fear around birth!
Clinical Hypnotherapist and Hypnobirthing Teacher, NLP Practitioner, EFT Master Practitioner, Reiki Master Practitioner and Breastfeeding Peer Supporter.
I am fully insured and have a full DBS as well as level 2 certificate in adult and paediatric first aid.
Please do get in touch if you’d like to know more about the services I offer, how I can help you to feel positive and confident about your pregnancy, giving birth and your transition into motherhood.